Stop surrounding yourself with those who don't see your value today. 

The Unfiltered

"See, you're marriage material."

"See, you're marriage material." Am I really supposed to take that as a compliment?  After being in a conversation with a male friend, I asked, "What is it with me, I get hit on non stop, everyone wants to...well, you know, but no one wants to date?" He tells me, "You're the girl a guy would marry, but not one a guy is ready to date. It would be hard to hurt you; you're a great girl. But these other girls, they're just easy to move on from."

So guys, my problem with this is, the good girl, the decent one who is great, WE have to compete with the easy, dumpable chicks. We begin to question, why aren't we good enough and why is it we see potential in you that you don't see in yourself. Think about it, if the good girl would give you the time of day, why in the hell would you waste it on the dumpables? And should we lower who we are just to get a date? I really like who I am and I'm not sure I want to be anything like those bottom feeders.

Maybe I'm still old fashioned, maybe I believe your parents would have taught you to want more out of life and want substance. My fear is that my daughter will face your sons one day. What I want for my daughter is the same thing I want for myself. I want the guy to be interested in her, I want her to be the first thing he thinks of in the morning and before going to bed, not his POF acct, that he has "just for fun." I want him to be her biggest fan, the one who would support her dreams and goals. I want her to be able to believe the words coming out of his mouth, that truth and honesty is a part of his character. I want him to be the guy he would want for his own daughter.

In the mean time, I'll learn to say thank you, when I am told, "you're a great girl," and realize I am way too good for you.

Monday morning...wondering if every day of the rest of my life, will I dread seeing you? kb

I was watching TV tonight and thought to myself.."Self, you're getting old."  Suddenly my attention was brought to my pretty polished toes, and if I say so myself, my feet are kinda cute. Then, I noticed, the bottoms, what everyone doesn't see, they really didn't seem to match my "12 month flop feet." I couldn't help to think about the ground we walk on daily and how there are cracks everywhere we go. Cracks, they're created by the foundation settling. I thought, wow, it's time for some TLC, then I said "whoa whoa whoa, I don't settle so I shouldn't have cracks!!!!" Yeah, my ADD kicks in at times. Notice how we hit the same pot holes day after day, we surely know they are there and we still forget to dodge them, then we fuss at whoever didn't fix them. Same thing with life, if we keep hitting the same pot holes, the crack is only going to get bigger, we become damaged, then think someone else should pay.  Sometimes you have to take a different route, just to enter the upper end of the parking lot to avoid that growing pot hole. It may take you time to get used to the new way, but you'll soon begin to enjoy it. All it will take is to miss your turn, hit that pot hole again and you'll soon realize why you took a new path. Time for a pedi and a new pair of shoes. kb